Shocking: Some Parents Don’t Know This About Social Media

One question – what should parents know about social media? See enh, there’s a modern age kind of parenting that ‘ayam’ not understanding. The kind that allows a child below fifteen to have an internet-enabled phone, with little or no supervision. I don’t understand it. I am no parent, and I wouldn’t presume to advise any parent on how to be better at what they do. The other day though, I came across something that made me question a parent. In between work and errands, I usually flip through Instagram and see…

Twenties Are For Doing Stupid Things | Parenting Teenage Daughters

Yes, your teen years and twenties are for doing stupid things. I know this because I managed to do plenty of stupid things in my heydays. Some were quite shocking, considering my parents. They weren’t that strict; they simply didn’t permit any kind of foolishness. While I must admit, its quite a task parenting teenage daughters, still, I do often wonder where I got my adventurous spirit from. Whichever of my ancestors is responsible, I’m blaming them for what I did on one cold, crisp night January, in the year…

1 Customer Wahalla – Ette Eketi Edima

By Eketi Ette   I am sitting here in the parking lot of a supermarket, crying. I can’t even begin to explain where the hurt is coming from; I suspect that it is the accumulate hurt and pain from weeks of going against the tide, fighting the hardships and challenges that seem to spring up on every side. This isn’t even the time for me to psychoanalyze what I’m feeling. So, I am crying. It is not the pretty, gentle sobs of a genteel woman; no, it’s deep, racking, chest-heaving,…

Between a Rock and a Hard Place

church and mosque noise

I’m not sure I was up to ten years old when I heard this expression for the first time. All I know is that it was so funny. In my young mind, I thought, but they’re both the same thing nah. The rock and the hard place are both the same thing. Trust me, I didn’t even understand that the idiom could apply to real life situations until I was a young adult standing in front of a naked lecturer, wondering just how bad the ‘F’ I was sure to…

THE PORTFOLIO OF RATTUS RATTUS

When I was much younger, one of my favourite things to do was visit my grandfather. It didn’t matter that I was not up to ten years old; we’d spend hours talking about so many things like the economy, his farms, and hotels, and how to grow the business. We were very close. One day, I went to see Grandpa. As soon as I walked through the doors, I noticed his despondent expression. “Grandpa, what’s the matter?” I asked, my brow furrowed with concern. Never one to beat about the…

Quiet Rebellion

I frequently get messages from young adults, asking me how they can gain some form of independence from their parents without seeming rude. Dear friend, if you’re in this kind of dilemma, then this is for you. It’s been years since I was sixteen, but I can still remember what it was like. The paramount thing on my mind then, was how and when I was going to get out from under my parents’ thumbs. I was particularly worried that they wouldn’t let me “flex” or enjoy life until I…

Being a Nigerian Woman

cheating wife

Let me tell you something: it is not easy to be a Nigerian woman. I know that there are people—men—who think that I like running on and on about women. but that is who I am and those are the people with whose issues I’m more familiar. Today, I want to share a few of the harsh realities of being a Nigerian woman. All these situations have a common denominator: fear. Fear of what people will say, fear of being treated like an outcast, fear of being accused of being…

Being Entitled is like Digging your Grave

Sense of entitlement: when someone believes that they deserve certain privileges and they’re arrogant about it. I don’t know if there’s a cure for having an entitlement mentality. There’s a culture of entitlement in this country. It’s something that’s eaten very deep into our psyche, something you should work hard to crush, if you should ever notice it in yourself. Whether you’re in the market, at your workplace or at home, you’ll come face to face with this trait. One of the commonest manifestations is in the practice by many…

Are you a Self-Investor?

Self-Investor in yourself

Recently, I was having a conversation with one of my mentees and I mentioned self-investment. The first thing that came to her mind was money, stocks, and bonds. Until I told her that last year, I’d put in over two hundred thousand naira in courses, trainings, and seminars to improve myself. She was aghast at the thought, and shocked that I considered that a small sum. Knowing where I want to be and considering that I’d spent more on things that weren’t of much benefit, I think that’s a paltry…